Do you know what can be difficult? Being stuck between two friends that used to get along. The pressure is on. Why? Simply because they will have a lot to say about each other. It becomes more difficult because you don’t really want to hear the negative comments.
As you’re the one in the middle you try to make things civil… keep it real… keep it 100, even when they don’t want to hear it.
It all depends on what they have fallen out over. Sometimes it can be really minor and all you have to do is knock their heads together. If it’s worse then there is a challenge on your hands.
3. Choosing Sides_
You feel like you have to choose sides, or agree with what one of them are saying about the other. I try and be the messenger, trying to let them actually hear each other point of view. That way they actually listen and no scream or yell. Sure you can take your anger on me because I get you’re frustrated but all the facts need to be taken into account.
If they’re not willing to hear still… then eventually something will bring them together and if not then I guess they weren’t meant to remain friends.
“And I’m wondering what it is I should do.”
5. Don’t Force It_
There’s no point trying to force something that may not get fixed. It would be nice to go back to how it was but the damage has been done. What happens as we move forward may be a nice happy ending or forever stuck.
6. Don’t Question Me_
They shouldn’t look at me as though I shouldn’t be talking to the other person. They never did anything to me and they need a friend just as much as the other person does. I won’t always agree with what has occurred for it to get to that point, but I would let that be known as well.
You’ll need a fully charged phone and probably one of those portable chargers if you’re going out. You’re going to be on call. Ice Cream is always great. Get your favourite flavour as it is your ear that may eventually fall off. Notepad and pen unless you take the notes in your head. They really need to know you’re listening. You may need to remember this for future conversations. A good venue just in case they are the spill their sorrows over a drink kind of person. Food, you may have to order take away as they may just turn up unexpectedly. A movie it doesn’t matter if it is a comedy they will still try and insert their situation into it. You may need a blanket as well it could be a long night, day then night.
It all depends on the circumstances and if it affects me, although I’m already feeling affected by being torn apart and stuck in the middle.
One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. – Lucius Annaeus Seneca
– Stuck In The Middle With You –