Say You Won’t Let Go

Say You Won’t Let Go

I’ve mentioned in the past about the things that we should let go. I didn’t really stress about the things that we shouldn’t let go. As difficult as it can be to let things go, it’s just as hard to hold on.


1. The Right Thing_

There have been many times I’ve let things go because I literally thought it was the right thing to do. Other times I was thinking too much about the past and convinced myself the same thing would happen again. The question is how will you know? Majority of the time you find out when it’s too late.

2. The Descision_

I don’t want to fall into the trap of hoping things will get better and they don’t or letting things go when the future later shows it would have gotten better.

3. How?_

So what do you do? How do you know the relationship is going to last? How do you know the job is going to turn around? How do you know you will do a good job being a parent? How do you know you will be there when that person needs you?

4. Time_

Time can be wasted. Yes, but if you don’t take that leap of faith you will never know. The constant speculations doesn’t help but if you know deep down that this is the right thing to do. If you believe there is something. Commit yourself. You may be blamed for even trying if things fall apart but you truly thought it would work out. Not everything works out and that’s okay, that’s just how life. Don’t look back with regret look back with pride that you took that opportunity to try.


“Cause I played it cool when I was scared of letting go.”

5. You Don’t Really Know_

I would have loved to grow up with both parents but the decision was clearly made. If he truly thought he could stay then he would have no excuses behind it. Now I look back and if he had stayed then that would have been a bad idea. If he was committed and made it work then I would have been happier. Let’s be honest there’s always something missing.

6. Think about it_

What is it worth?

7. Fight_

If you are willing to stay. If someone is willing to stay. Then it’s worth fighting for and if its easier than that then great! Don’t let go of something that can turn into something amazing. The end result may not be how you visioned it but if you’re still smiling like you was in that vision, I guess mission accomplished.

8. Say It_

Tell them you will try not to let go. Tell them you won’t let go.


“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

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– Say You Won’t Let Go –

Sam Smith

 

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Nobody’s Perfect

Nobody’s Perfect

It’s true what they say, that nobody’s perfect. I guess we were at one point and that’s the moment we took our first breath on this earth. Who knew that later in life we would make so many mistakes. I say so many which include the small and big mistakes we have made.


1. Who?_

I mean who would you be if you were perfect anyway? How would you learn from your mistakes? You can easily say I just wouldn’t do what others do, but my question still remains. How would you learn from YOUR mistakes? It’s that feeling of regret, panic, and despair.

2. That Step_

I know that those are not good feelings to have, but after processing it you are prepared for the next step. That step is growth, you now know what to avoid so you don’t end up trapped in those feelings again. They can consume you and sometimes leave you stuck.

3. Take It For Granted_

There are those that do take it for granted, especially those who have been forgiven more than once. I mean there is a limit, right? It’s quite clear that if those same mistakes occur more than once it’s not a mistake anymore. It’s a choice. If you choose to continue, I can choose to let you go.

4. Challenge_

Majority of the time when it is someone close to you it can be hard. That is the challenge we face, but I’m sure having them feel the consequence is stronger than them being forgiven again. You let them off the hook, then how are we going to catch any fish??


“Cause nobody’s perfect, No, no, no, no, no, no, no, nobody’s perfect.”

5. Better or Worse_

There are worse mistakes that can be made. Those are the hardest ones to come back from. Those are the kind we definitely try to avoid.

6. Don’t Hide_

Nobody is perfect so don’t try to hide your mistakes. Get those jazz hands out and be honest. If you wait the reaction can be much worse. I say that but there are those that really punish people to the extreme when it’s unnecessary.

7. Let Down_

We all have someone that we really don’t want to let down. For some that can be everybody. If things fall apart, put it back together. Don’t feel that you failed. As long as you’re trying it makes a difference.

8. Continue_

I will continue with my days, I won’t prepare myself for the next thing I do wrong. As that is just setting doubt on myself. I’ll just stay focused on the next good thing that will happen.


“Nobody’s perfect, and to try to pretend you’re perfect is an exhausting fool’s errand.”           – Rosemary Mahoney

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– Nobody’s Perfect –

Jessie J

 

Unsteady

Unsteady

We are not always going to be 100%. There is always going to be something or someone that will tear us down. Disrupt our flow. Make us fall apart. Make us lose ourselves.


1. Fool Ourselves_

We may try and lie to others with a fake smile and say we are okay. I believe we do that to try and fool ourselves too. It doesn’t work because when the moment comes when we’re alone with nothing or no one to distract us, that feeling chases right up to us.

2. Feel_

We like to seem fine because we don’t to be seen as weak or a so-called ‘baby’ but we’re not. We feel and there’s nothing wrong with that no matter how old or who we are.

3. Be There_

It seems shocking when the person you thought had it all together suddenly breaks down. What do you do? I already know I feel nervous when someone is crying but I know I’m going to stay there. Everyone needs a shoulder. Everyone needs someone. We don’t need to be the best of friends but if your hurting there’s no need to be alone.

4. You Don’t Know_

We don’t know what happens behind closed doors and sometimes we want particular people to be there for us when we need them. Unfortunately, the person we want may not be there. They may have sadly passed away. They may still be around but we’ve gone our separate ways.


 “Hold, Hold on, Hold on to me, ‘Cause I’m a little unsteady, A little unsteady.”

5. The Push_

You may be pushed away or have someone disappear. You could be that person. It’s mainly because you feel embarrassed or don’t want to seem like a burden. As much as you know they’re not, you’re not either. Saying you need help a step forward.

6. Disrupt_

When we’re unsteady it can cause a disruption in our lives. It may seem like everything you come across beings to become as unsteady as you are. You can’t do this. You can’t do that. All the negativity takes its toll. This is just another hurdle you ARE going to jump over.

7. Home_

When you’re home everything feels right. Everything feels how it should. What if you’re unsteady at home? Ever heard of the saying ‘Home is where the heart is.’ We all see and feel home in different places. Go there. Be there. Take that time.
 

8. Hold On_

When I can’t hold myself up will you be there? If you can’t hold yourself up will I be there? You best believe it! If me holding you up from afar is enough then know it’s being done because we all need someone too. I’ll hold on as long as you need me to.


“One feels that the past stays the way you left it, whereas the present is in constant movement; it’s unstable all around you.”

– Tom Stoppard

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– Unsteady –

X Ambassadors

 

When Is It Ok To Say No?

When Is It Ok To Say No?

When Is It Ok To Say No?

Why keep saying yes? If the reason is that you don’t want to let them down. It’s not a good enough reason. We all have different priorities and things we would rather use our yes for. I was in a situation where I was always trying to please everyone while I broke myself down. I could clearly see where I was appreciated and acknowledged for saying yes. The moment I turned around and said no to the people that took me for granted they got angry. It was mainly people that have probably never heard someone say no to them before. Stand your ground. You shouldn’t be made to feel like you’re in the wrong or guilty for saying no. We are entitled to do what we want. Yes, I’m fully aware by simply saying no sometimes can go in one ear and out the other. You see how times have been changing and people are being exposed for who they are. That’s why we need to remain vocal. You’re not the only one. #supportoneanother

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– Time To Relate Tuesday –

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​8 tips for healthy skin

​8 tips for healthy skin

Oh, right you’re here for the tips about the healthy looking skin! Great because I have quite a bit to tell you. The first thing I want to say is that you should NEVER feel ugly or be ashamed of who you are. We all go through acne, wrinkles, stretch marks or some may suffer from eczema. I did and I was embraced to show my arms but then I simply looked at them and look for ways to clear it up. That’s how you end up on articles like this one. My arms were still itchy but in time my arms cleared up. Did I get teased sure I was the one with the infected arms and I went along with it and now she’s gone. We’ve got this!

8. Cut the unhealthy_

You know smoking, sun damage and some would say junk food. I SAY NO! If I want a doughnut which I do often, I will have one. I just know I need to have some water and a few healthy options to counteract it. It’s like I’m making deals with myself. Eat this and I’ll give you two oranges and 20 sit-ups. I’m a good negotiator clearly.

7. Body Wash_

This is the clean version! Get it. Moving on, so below are some suggested products to check out if you haven’t already. They make an effort of making your skin feel hydrated and of course CLEAN! It would be great to get an exfoliating sponge just so you can really scrub that skin. (Not to much as it will you know be attached to the sponge) You know your skin best so they offer a range for dry, oily etc.. skin!

 

6. Lotion_

Just like hair you can towel dry or lounge around in a dressing gown and air dry. I mean you don’t use a dressing gown for hair but you get what I mean! These lotions below are highly recommended. They have huge ranges for different types of skin. Take your pick and there’s nothing wrong with trial and error just so you know the best product for you. Don’t just get Aveeno because you are a fan of Rachel from Friends. (That’s why I totally use it) Remember the more expensive doesn’t always mean the best.

5. Face Mask & Mud_

I went ahead and tested a few face masks as I needed one for my face. My face is quite oily and I needed something to get my paws open. Give your face the chance to breathe. It’s time to go bare people and embrace that amazing face you have. Take a look! Some highlighted ingredients below.

Black Mask (Peel)

Don’t Look At Me (Lush)

Fresh Organic Lemon Juice, Murumuru Butter, Grapefruit Oil, Organic Silken Tofu, Scrubs

Cupcake (Lush)

Cocoa Powder, Vanilla Absolute, Linseed Infusion, Rhassoul Mud

Brazened Honey (Lush)

Fresh Ginger Root, Fresh Organic Lime Juice, Fresh Fennel, Honey, Almond Oil

Purple Clay Mask (Sephora)

Water, Kaolin, Shea Butter

Hammam Rituals Body Mud

Right remember that game you used to play as a kid. Not that one… stuck in the mud. Turns out it’s not so bad to be stuck in the mud because it does wonders for your skin. That’s why there are mud bath and mud mask and mud things. I went digging and This Rituals Body Mud is actually amazing!

Full Version if you want, I won’t get offended it’s 17mins because I talk too much.

4. Rest_

Count some sheep and get some Z’s. Pinching your cheeks is not going to help to try and wake up. Stay WOKE and go out and Meditate or do some Yoga. You need to relax! I even added some free apps just in case you’re like antisocial like me and want to do it yourself.

3. Vitamins

Yes you still need to take those. Do some digging into these and see what will work for you. This may be another trial and error to see what really works for you. Swisse worked better for me than Perfectil but worked for a friend of mine. See how it goes but they are all highly recommended.

Perfectil

Swisse

Vitamin A, C & D

Skin, Hair & Nails (Holland & Barrett)

2. What To Eat_

Let’s see, there are a few big words I need to use. Antioxidants and omega-3s. Fine, that wasn’t difficult, but they are good for the skin. Remember acne and wrinkles are part of the life process so don’t stress too much we already established that doesn’t help either. Take a look below. See any you like? Get eating! Tomatoes are not my thing, however, if mixed in food that takes away the taste, it’s perfectly fine. If that is the case for you, you can make it work too. Yes having it raw is always best but it’s better than not having it at all.

Dark Chocolate

Avocados

Tomatoes

Carrots

Walnuts

Salmon

Peppers

Eggs

1. What To Drink_

Water

You probably guessed already. Yes, the answer is water, however, not everyone such as myself enjoys drinking plain water. If you do then get drinking! Have you noticed how some people have their clear bottle of water with an alien looking things inside? It’s just slices of fruit or veg. Gives the water a refreshing and somewhat different taste. I use lemon or lime slices, but you can get creative whatever impresses your tastebuds. I also drink flavoured water with no sugar and other no things. Have it hot or cold! Yay!

Aloe Vera Juice

Coconut Water

Green Tea 

White Tea

Rooibos Tea

Chamomile Tea

Spearmint Tea

The list sounds fancy right? Now for the Herbal tea, there are solutions to add some extra flavour and they are still healthy. I came across T2 they have loose teas and bagged tea with fresh ingredients with crazy names. Take a look this Green Rose Loose Leaf has mango, green tea, rose petals (exactly) and other bits. The taste is great!

T2

http://www.t2tea.com/en/uk/Home

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Hey You. Yes YOU! You look amazing!!

 

Let It Go

Let It Go

When that relationship begins whatever it is, what should go through our minds? How long will it last or how long we hope it will last? I guess those are the questions we shouldn’t ask, but we do! Whether it’s right at the beginning or throughout the relationship. It’s not a negative thought, there are many emotions that are related to those questions.


1. Emotions_

Fear because you don’t want to lose the relationship. Sadness because you might lose the relationship. Surprised because you even have the relationship. Happiness because you still have the relationship. Anger because you’re still in it.

2. Red Zone_

There it is people. The anger part or annoyed or bored. Whatever it is you’re in the red. Now every relationship goes into the red zone (Not red for love, red for danger!!!!!). There are many that chose to push through it, fight it or just stay in it. If you chose to stay in it then that is one miserable relationship. Unless we are looking at it from a red meaning love perspective. There is no point in remaining in something that just makes you feel stuck like you can’t be happy again.

3. Time_

Time to let it go. I’d rather be able to wake up in the morning and recognize myself, then seeing a complete stranger. When you lose yourself it can become harder to get back. You could have even spent that time before you met that person finding yourself and to have that taken away, is not worth it.

4. Be Free_

Ain’t no clouds in my sky (Although London is not helping in that weather department). Chose to let it go. Be free to be you again.


“So come on, let it go, Just let it be, Why don’t you be you, And I’ll be me.”

5. Don’t Compare_

The same questions will come to mind in a new relationship but don’t compare it to the last. Otherwise, you’re just going to start in the red zone. That is something I really need to realize. Clearly, I have because I just said it, but I need to take action! The next relationship may be the same as before but GUESS WHAT, it’s like searching for a pair of really nice new trainers (Sneakers, Zapatillas, Baskets). You may find it quickly or have to search to a website abroad and get it shipped over taking longer but it will be worth the wait!! (Gotta love my examples!).

6. Not Just Relationships_

This could be about work or any decision you made that you feel you need to let go of. Sometimes we find ourselves in tough situations where it’s not easy to just let go. We can make the first step in the right direction. We all have goals and the light at the end of the tunnel even if it feels like it’s miles away. Keep pushing!

7. Just Let It Be_

There are going to be others that would want to have an input into your decision. You can receive them but this is about you. This is about your situation. Let it be and bring on the next chapter.

8. Smile_

We all know we need more smiles.


“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

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– Let It Go –

James Bay

Too Good At Goodbyes

Too Good At Goodbyes

Do you know what’s annoying about having a bad experience? That voice in the back of your mind. “Hey remember the time that didn’t work out and was a terrible disaster? You shouldn’t try that again, it’s just going to end the same way.” Your trust level goes down real quick and that wall has gotten even higher.

1. Assuming failure_

People will say you shouldn’t live life to assume things are going to fail. I’ve even said that to people. Why are you thinking so negatively? It suddenly dawned on me looking at my own experience, I found it’s not negativity. It’s about preparing yourself. You’ve seen the same thing play out before. It hasn’t stopped you from trying again but there’s just a delay getting your hopes up. It actually makes success that much greater!

2. Yay… bad experiences_

Is it bad to say that it’s better having these bad experiences? You become numb to those emotional rollercoaster rides. It makes it easier to overcome, so you don’t have to go on those rides anymore! You may come across as heartless but the truth is that you’ve been hurt so many times you just don’t feel it as much anymore. It’s important to feel it, but if I can get out of one situation ok then that would be great. Puffy eyes are the worst!

3. Opening Up_

When we open up to people we are taking a giant step. The trust step. Trusting that those words that flow out of your mouth will not be used as a weapon or be thrown back at you. We all see things differently. Your pain may not be my pain and my pain may not be your pain, but if we are open to see it. We can work together. There are way too many people feeling alone in this world.

4. Nervous_

You must think I’m stupid. You must think that I’m a fool. I’ve been here before and saw the rainbows and butterflies thinking finally I’m getting somewhere… then BAM! Black Lightning zaps me into reality (I don’t know how he got involved). My point is when you say to yourself. “This is it. This is the person or the thing I can put my all into. And I’m going to be accepted for who I am and not have it thrown back in my face.” It gets thrown and the closed sign goes up.


“And every time you leave me, the quicker these tears dry.”

5. Saying Hello_

Saying goodbye may become easy, but saying hello becomes much more difficult. They never said life would be easy and there’s no in between. I appreciate the voice in my head and I appreciate those that will continue to try even though that wall may be sky high. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to protect yourself, considering those past experiences.

6. Cautious_

I’ve learned it’s fine to be cautious but I’m not going to live on eggshells. There could have been many people in history that remained to live that way and there wouldn’t have been as many changes as there is today. It’s a better feeling knowing that time you took a chance it finally turned out great.

7. The Pain_

The pain makes you stronger. 

8. Close To Me_

If you refuse to open up to someone that’s meant to be close to you, there’s a chance you’ll lose them. You may not have such a sad response to that as the last person you was close to hurt you. That’s the reason you don’t want to open up. Those that are meant to protect us, give us the biggest pain. I say tread lightly but don’t close off. Don’t give them the power of letting you miss out on something that can put you back together.


“History never really says goodbye. History says, See you later.” Eduardo Galeano

– Too Good At Goodbyes –

Sam Smith

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