We may have people but there’s that one person in particular that just understand and knows you without even having to say a word.
It’s an instant click. The first time it happens you instantly question ‘Where have you been my whole life?’ Unless of course, they’ve already been there your whole life.
They know you through all your emotions. What you do when you’re happy. What you stop doing when you’re sad. Even just by a facial expression, they know the whole story of what you were about to tell them.
“Well hold on, my darling, this mess was yours, now your mess is mine.”
This is your person. Whatever you through you go through together. There’s no way I will allow my person to go through anything alone and even if they want to be. I’ll be sitting right outside waiting until they do. Your mess in mine and of course mine is yours. I’m there and always will be even if you try to push me away because of how overwhelmed you may be feeling at the time.
You’re not getting rid of me that easily or at all. I need you just as much. No matter how many miles away you’re my first call and when you call me I’ll answer. (If not leave a voicemail). 😀
There were times I felt stuck and useless but you helped me gain the strength and broke down the barriers for me to keep going. We all need a person and I am thankful for the one I forever and will always have.
We’ve got that Meredith and Cristina kinda love. You’re my person.
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.
– Samuel Smiles
The people that I have let into my life. We often forget that they can be gone and we don’t like to think about it, although there will be that moment when it’s all you think about. Then quickly kick it out of your mind. I have always found it difficult to let people in for many reasons but that would be first in line. Not just for me but for everyone. We have so much technology with these apps that connect us wherever we are in the world. So a friend in Canada seems as though they are down the road from me in London.
As consumed as we are with the Internet, it’s what keeps us connected. Some people are so overboard let’s be honest. They can walk down the road and not lift their head up once and wonder how they stepped in dog poo. Even though that person should be fined for letting their dog poo there… moving on. The point that I’m making is that we don’t know what is around the corner. Someone ‘clever’ would say another road. Gold star. There could be but whilst they’re walking down that road with their face in their phone. That contact they have may not answer. Not because they are in the bathroom or in a meeting, but because they are gone.
This is not about using your phone more. This is about really appreciating and using that communication. Sure you can say I’ll call her later. Sure you can say I’ll text her to meet up some time. I apologise, who texts anymore? Whatsapp or Facebook… whatever. We can be busy and have other things to do, but time can be made as time matters. We all know life is too short, but we need to remember not to take each other for granted. Sometimes we even just need to shove the phones out of the way and really be in each others company. Then again there will be no selfies or Snapchat updates.
There will always be that disagreement or argument. There will never be full peace as much as we ask. Just as long as we stick together with the people that matter at the end, that’s what will keep us moving even after they are gone.
“I’m gonna love you like I’m gonna lose you.”
– Like I’m Gonna Lose You –
John Legend & Meghan Trainor
The saying ‘It’s a small world’ is true only because we are all already connected in some way. It just takes a moment of impact. It doesn’t even need to be a huge impact. The world is like High School, we are all split into different categories. They have been changing over the years but we still have a long way to go. Before we get to know someone we prejudge who they are just by looking at them. We have already placed them into a category.
The category you have placed them in may be right. They may just fit in. Is it because of their style, colour or background? These are the main reason why they would be quickly placed. Did you ever think that they’re in the wrong category or maybe they want to get out of that category? Behind every style, colour or background there is an individual. A person who wants to make their own decision and not be forced into a category because it’s easy. It’s as though when you try to move from the stereotypical judgment, it’s so much harder. If they actually tried to find out who I was. Me. Not the thousands that I may seem to be. Surprise! I’ve turned out NOT to be the person you assumed I was.
“It’s a really good cloak.”
This is when everyone begins to over think things. I may want to wear a hoodie because I like hoodies, sure I may wear it at night. Then it becomes a question of is she a criminal? You’re not given a chance because of those actual stereotypical individuals that have made it that much more difficult.
There are so many individuals out there that can actually surprise you for the better. That’s if you give them the chance. Of course, there’s going to be the stereotypes but that ‘Nerd’ can become the ‘Jock’. Even the ‘Gangster’ can become a ‘Nerd’ or may have always been one. We shouldn’t be defined by a stereotype or make assumptions as soon as you see someone. You don’t and why don’t you know because you never asked. It may be difficult to show who you are but once you break through it’s the best feeling.
“You can either ride with us, or collide with us.” – Tupac
– Crash –
It’s easy to give up. Just quit and say no. Why should we push through something so hard and stress over it? The headaches and constant tiredness. The amount of effort. It’s too much.
To be honest it’s not enough. When it comes to something we love or someone. We need to try. Get up and try and try again. Giving up is easy but then comes regret and the what ifs. The amount of time and effort will eventually get you where you want to go. Sure eventually can be a long time but not everything happens overnight. I’m lucky enough to have people around me that can help or even push me through and I’m taking the opportunity. It’s difficult doing things alone but it’s not impossible. There are many people in this world that have proved that.
I know I need to keep trying and when I get back in that place thinking I can’t. I need to remember I can because I’m doing it.If I don’t make it then clearly there is another path that awaits me. We always learn something new about ourselves and we should never forget that. There are places I want to go and there are places I need to be.
“You gotta get up and try and try and try.”
– Try –
I’ve mentioned in the past about the things that we should let go. I didn’t really stress about the things that we shouldn’t let go. As difficult as it can be to let things go, it’s just as hard to hold on.
1. The Right Thing_
There have been many times I’ve let things go because I literally thought it was the right thing to do. Other times I was thinking too much about the past and convinced myself the same thing would happen again. The question is how will you know? Majority of the time you find out when it’s too late.
2. The Descision_
I don’t want to fall into the trap of hoping things will get better and they don’t or letting things go when the future later shows it would have gotten better.
So what do you do? How do you know the relationship is going to last? How do you know the job is going to turn around? How do you know you will do a good job being a parent? How do you know you will be there when that person needs you?
Time can be wasted. Yes, but if you don’t take that leap of faith you will never know. The constant speculations doesn’t help but if you know deep down that this is the right thing to do. If you believe there is something. Commit yourself. You may be blamed for even trying if things fall apart but you truly thought it would work out. Not everything works out and that’s okay, that’s just how life. Don’t look back with regret look back with pride that you took that opportunity to try.
“Cause I played it cool when I was scared of letting go.”
5. You Don’t Really Know_
I would have loved to grow up with both parents but the decision was clearly made. If he truly thought he could stay then he would have no excuses behind it. Now I look back and if he had stayed then that would have been a bad idea. If he was committed and made it work then I would have been happier. Let’s be honest there’s always something missing.
6. Think about it_
What is it worth?
If you are willing to stay. If someone is willing to stay. Then it’s worth fighting for and if its easier than that then great! Don’t let go of something that can turn into something amazing. The end result may not be how you visioned it but if you’re still smiling like you was in that vision, I guess mission accomplished.
8. Say It_
Tell them you will try not to let go. Tell them you won’t let go.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell
– Say You Won’t Let Go –