Crash

Crash

The saying ‘It’s a small world’ is true only because we are all already connected in some way. It just takes a moment of impact. It doesn’t even need to be a huge impact. The world is like High School, we are all split into different categories. They have been changing over the years but we still have a long way to go. Before we get to know someone we prejudge who they are just by looking at them. We have already placed them into a category.

The category you have placed them in may be right. They may just fit in. Is it because of their style, colour or background? These are the main reason why they would be quickly placed. Did you ever think that they’re in the wrong category or maybe they want to get out of that category? Behind every style, colour or background there is an individual. A person who wants to make their own decision and not be forced into a category because it’s easy. It’s as though when you try to move from the stereotypical judgment, it’s so much harder. If they actually tried to find out who I was. Me. Not the thousands that I may seem to be. Surprise! I’ve turned out NOT to be the person you assumed I was.

 


“It’s a really good cloak.”

 


This is when everyone begins to over think things. I may want to wear a hoodie because I like hoodies, sure I may wear it at night. Then it becomes a question of is she a criminal? You’re not given a chance because of those actual stereotypical individuals that have made it that much more difficult.

There are so many individuals out there that can actually surprise you for the better. That’s if you give them the chance. Of course, there’s going to be the stereotypes but that ‘Nerd’ can become the ‘Jock’. Even the ‘Gangster’ can become a ‘Nerd’ or may have always been one. We shouldn’t be defined by a stereotype or make assumptions as soon as you see someone. You don’t and why don’t you know because you never asked. It may be difficult to show who you are but once you break through it’s the best feeling. 


“You can either ride with us, or collide with us.” – Tupac

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– Crash –

The Movie

 

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Try

Try

It’s easy to give up. Just quit and say no. Why should we push through something so hard and stress over it? The headaches and constant tiredness. The amount of effort. It’s too much.

To be honest it’s not enough. When it comes to something we love or someone. We need to try. Get up and try and try again. Giving up is easy but then comes regret and the what ifs. The amount of time and effort will eventually get you where you want to go. Sure eventually can be a long time but not everything happens overnight. I’m lucky enough to have people around me that can help or even push me through and I’m taking the opportunity. It’s difficult doing things alone but it’s not impossible. There are many people in this world that have proved that.

I know I need to keep trying and when I get back in that place thinking I can’t. I need to remember I can because I’m doing it.If I don’t make it then clearly there is another path that awaits me. We always learn something new about ourselves and we should never forget that. There are places I want to go and there are places I need to be.

“You gotta get up and try and try and try.”

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– Try –

Pink

 

Say You Won’t Let Go

Say You Won’t Let Go

I’ve mentioned in the past about the things that we should let go. I didn’t really stress about the things that we shouldn’t let go. As difficult as it can be to let things go, it’s just as hard to hold on.


1. The Right Thing_

There have been many times I’ve let things go because I literally thought it was the right thing to do. Other times I was thinking too much about the past and convinced myself the same thing would happen again. The question is how will you know? Majority of the time you find out when it’s too late.

2. The Descision_

I don’t want to fall into the trap of hoping things will get better and they don’t or letting things go when the future later shows it would have gotten better.

3. How?_

So what do you do? How do you know the relationship is going to last? How do you know the job is going to turn around? How do you know you will do a good job being a parent? How do you know you will be there when that person needs you?

4. Time_

Time can be wasted. Yes, but if you don’t take that leap of faith you will never know. The constant speculations doesn’t help but if you know deep down that this is the right thing to do. If you believe there is something. Commit yourself. You may be blamed for even trying if things fall apart but you truly thought it would work out. Not everything works out and that’s okay, that’s just how life. Don’t look back with regret look back with pride that you took that opportunity to try.


“Cause I played it cool when I was scared of letting go.”

5. You Don’t Really Know_

I would have loved to grow up with both parents but the decision was clearly made. If he truly thought he could stay then he would have no excuses behind it. Now I look back and if he had stayed then that would have been a bad idea. If he was committed and made it work then I would have been happier. Let’s be honest there’s always something missing.

6. Think about it_

What is it worth?

7. Fight_

If you are willing to stay. If someone is willing to stay. Then it’s worth fighting for and if its easier than that then great! Don’t let go of something that can turn into something amazing. The end result may not be how you visioned it but if you’re still smiling like you was in that vision, I guess mission accomplished.

8. Say It_

Tell them you will try not to let go. Tell them you won’t let go.


“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

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– Say You Won’t Let Go –

Sam Smith

 

Believe In Me

Believe In Me

I know I can be insecure about myself, who isn’t? It can be the smallest things that people don’t even notice or the ones that everyone does. There are so many parts of ourselves we can be insecure about, from the things we do, to what we say and how we look. It’s a nightmare constantly thinking about it. Sometimes it just consumes you completely.


1. Overcome_

There are people out there that can overcome their insecurities in a day or maybe even a week. Then there are those like me who have taken so much longer. I mean we are talking about years.

2. Inseucrities_

Your insecurities always come from somewhere. Once upon a time we didn’t even notice them, but as we grow older we look around and begin to compare ourselves with others. There is one insecurity I have because someone told me it over and over again. I never even thought of it being an insecurity, but it’s like having a song on repeat eventually you will know all the words. Eventually I believed it and I thought it was true.

3. Push It Away_

I had to climb a mountain to overcome that insecurity. Not a real mountain but I’ve actually climbed a real mountain! You understand what I mean. As much as I wanted to fly to the top, I’m not Superwoman. There’s no such thing as shortcuts. I was told to forget it and stop worrying because I knew it wasn’t true. I did try to just push it aside, although it was like watching a in the Jack in the box.

4. Unknown_

I didn’t know when but I knew it would spring right back up. Me being the person I see in the mirror everyday. The person feeling so out of place. You are constantly reminded and the power of your insecurities has such a strong hold.


“So you see, I just wanna believe in me.”

5. The Rush_

When you are rushed to overcome your insecurities, I believe that it makes it worse. You put so much more pressure on yourself. Maybe this insecurity I have seems silly to others but it’s mine. I understand that people, especially those that are close to you are trying to help. I would just appreciate the patience and well as the support. The continuing tug would just make me fall back down to where I started with what got me there in the first place.

6. The Power_

Insecurity is powerful and has a hold of each one of us. Some may even have more than others. I just know with each insecurity I have, no matter how long it takes I will work on it.

7. Negativity_

I don’t want more negative words thrown at me, but that’s what makes you want to prove to yourself. It may just be later but I will.

8. Embrace_

The next step will be embracing that insecurity in a more positive and productive way.


“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

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– Believe In Me –

Demi Lovato

 

Scared

Scared

Showing that you’re scared is seen as a weakness, but we are all afraid of something. When you’re a child those fears are accepted. Once you’ve reached adulthood it’s as though you really have to hide them away. Where’s the humanity in that?


1. Nothing Different_

Women are seen to be more emotional than men. So it may not be a surprise that they may have the most fears. I do think that men are the same. I guess I shouldn’t say that, as their ‘role’ is to be the alpha male and not show it but it’s there. They just refuse to admit it and those that want to are afraid. They are afraid of what other people would say and how they would look at them after.

2. Actions_

If an intruder breaks into your home, the man of the house should check it out. I’m pretty sure the majority of their minds are thinking ‘Why don’t you check it out?’. No one is any weaker than anyone else. Fear is fear and we all have a weakness. So if someone confides in me about their fear I won’t burst out laughing. Even though it can be something silly, but so could mine.

3. The Hold_

Fear does take hold of you and when you’re faced with it. It’s just like those characters in the movies when you’re shouting at the screen telling them to run. You freeze. What do you do? How do you deal with it? What will happen?

4. The Force_

People can use your fears against you. It doesn’t mean I’m going to lock myself in a room for of spiders to prove others wrong or make myself immune from fear somehow. If you’re scared you’re scared. No need to prove anything to anyone and if you feel you must and you face it. You’ve taken that first step.


“Cause the fear in me just won’t go away.”

5. Facing It_

Once you have faced your fear that can be all you needed to overcome it. That’s the hard part. You’ve been trying to avoid it for so long and that may just have been what you need to get rid of it completely. You now know what to expect if it were to present itself again. To be honest, if I were locked in a room full of spiders, I still would never want to do that again!

6. The List_

We can also have positive looks on our fears. If it’s the fear of letting someone down and then you do, nobody’s perfect you’ve had a good track record so far. If it’s the fear of being left behind, someone will eventually push you forward. If it’s the fear of telling someone how you feel, at least you’ll finally know the real response, as opposed to playing different scenarios in your head driving yourself crazy. The list continues.

7. Losing Someone_

This is one of the biggest fears. It’s understandable. It’s hard. How do you continue? Will I forget? You want to freeze time or even go back. This is probably why many people may just want to get so close to anyone. It may hurt less… Don’t shut off because the truth is you may miss out on being with the most amazing people you would ever meet.

8. Choice_

I am scared of a few things. I’m sure I will continue to try and avoid them. I do however have a choice, I can go towards my fear or wait for the fear can come to me. This is fun..


“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

– Nelson Mandela

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– Scared –

Duffy

 

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