Like I’m Gonna Lose You

Like I’m Gonna Lose You

The people that I have let into my life. We often forget that they can be gone and we don’t like to think about it, although there will be that moment when it’s all you think about. Then quickly kick it out of your mind. I have always found it difficult to let people in for many reasons but that would be first in line. Not just for me but for everyone. We have so much technology with these apps that connect us wherever we are in the world. So a friend in Canada seems as though they are down the road from me in London.

As consumed as we are with the Internet, it’s what keeps us connected. Some people are so overboard let’s be honest. They can walk down the road and not lift their head up once and wonder how they stepped in dog poo. Even though that person should be fined for letting their dog poo there… moving on. The point that I’m making is that we don’t know what is around the corner. Someone ‘clever’ would say another road. Gold star. There could be but whilst they’re walking down that road with their face in their phone. That contact they have may not answer. Not because they are in the bathroom or in a meeting, but because they are gone.

This is not about using your phone more. This is about really appreciating and using that communication. Sure you can say I’ll call her later. Sure you can say I’ll text her to meet up some time. I apologise, who texts anymore? Whatsapp or Facebook… whatever. We can be busy and have other things to do, but time can be made as time matters. We all know life is too short, but we need to remember not to take each other for granted. Sometimes we even just need to shove the phones out of the way and really be in each others company. Then again there will be no selfies or Snapchat updates.

There will always be that disagreement or argument. There will never be full peace as much as we ask. Just as long as we stick together with the people that matter at the end, that’s what will keep us moving even after they are gone.


“I’m gonna love you like I’m gonna lose you.”

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– Like I’m Gonna Lose You –

John Legend & Meghan Trainor

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Crash

Crash

The saying ‘It’s a small world’ is true only because we are all already connected in some way. It just takes a moment of impact. It doesn’t even need to be a huge impact. The world is like High School, we are all split into different categories. They have been changing over the years but we still have a long way to go. Before we get to know someone we prejudge who they are just by looking at them. We have already placed them into a category.

The category you have placed them in may be right. They may just fit in. Is it because of their style, colour or background? These are the main reason why they would be quickly placed. Did you ever think that they’re in the wrong category or maybe they want to get out of that category? Behind every style, colour or background there is an individual. A person who wants to make their own decision and not be forced into a category because it’s easy. It’s as though when you try to move from the stereotypical judgment, it’s so much harder. If they actually tried to find out who I was. Me. Not the thousands that I may seem to be. Surprise! I’ve turned out NOT to be the person you assumed I was.

 


“It’s a really good cloak.”

 


This is when everyone begins to over think things. I may want to wear a hoodie because I like hoodies, sure I may wear it at night. Then it becomes a question of is she a criminal? You’re not given a chance because of those actual stereotypical individuals that have made it that much more difficult.

There are so many individuals out there that can actually surprise you for the better. That’s if you give them the chance. Of course, there’s going to be the stereotypes but that ‘Nerd’ can become the ‘Jock’. Even the ‘Gangster’ can become a ‘Nerd’ or may have always been one. We shouldn’t be defined by a stereotype or make assumptions as soon as you see someone. You don’t and why don’t you know because you never asked. It may be difficult to show who you are but once you break through it’s the best feeling. 


“You can either ride with us, or collide with us.” – Tupac

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– Crash –

The Movie

 

Try

Try

It’s easy to give up. Just quit and say no. Why should we push through something so hard and stress over it? The headaches and constant tiredness. The amount of effort. It’s too much.

To be honest it’s not enough. When it comes to something we love or someone. We need to try. Get up and try and try again. Giving up is easy but then comes regret and the what ifs. The amount of time and effort will eventually get you where you want to go. Sure eventually can be a long time but not everything happens overnight. I’m lucky enough to have people around me that can help or even push me through and I’m taking the opportunity. It’s difficult doing things alone but it’s not impossible. There are many people in this world that have proved that.

I know I need to keep trying and when I get back in that place thinking I can’t. I need to remember I can because I’m doing it.If I don’t make it then clearly there is another path that awaits me. We always learn something new about ourselves and we should never forget that. There are places I want to go and there are places I need to be.

“You gotta get up and try and try and try.”

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– Try –

Pink

 

Don’t Let Me Down

Don’t Let Me Down

I mentioned before about getting stuck. It will forever be an ongoing thing. We all need someone whether we realise it or not. It can be someone you’ve known for years or even a few seconds.

The person that I need is no longer here. I say their name and they can’t hear me. They are no longer by my side. It is not by choice. It’s because of circumstances that have occurred. Now we are thousands of miles apart. The lucky thing however is I can still reach out to them. They may not be there for me as quickly as they were before but I can still count on them. I thought distance would be a problem and we always think that way. It is different. Having to wait because of the time zone. Having to wait because they’re are busy. Thankfully for me I know it’s worth the wait, because that message and that conversation means more to me. I can vent and be upset but know I will be okay at the end. Knowing my next step and laughing at why I was upset in the first place!!

Unfortunately there are those that wish to speak to people but are no longer here. There are also those that have had people walk away by choice. I am not taking the person I now have for granted. Sure it’s difficult to trust someone new but there was no fear this time. It was an instant trust and that’s something to hang on to. I know I won’t be let down. It may still be at the back of my mind, but doubt always is. In this case this friendship overpowers it.

It can be difficult to take that leap but I’ve been taught to take the risk. It can turn out to be something amazing. If it doesn’t then at least you had the strength to do so. That’s just life everything is not going to be easy you can be left behind, you can be forgotten about, you can get hurt. It’s those challenges and the negative things we fall from that will make us that much stronger and that much wiser to get back up.

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– Don’t Let Me Down –

The Chainsmokers & Daya

Say You Won’t Let Go

Say You Won’t Let Go

I’ve mentioned in the past about the things that we should let go. I didn’t really stress about the things that we shouldn’t let go. As difficult as it can be to let things go, it’s just as hard to hold on.


1. The Right Thing_

There have been many times I’ve let things go because I literally thought it was the right thing to do. Other times I was thinking too much about the past and convinced myself the same thing would happen again. The question is how will you know? Majority of the time you find out when it’s too late.

2. The Descision_

I don’t want to fall into the trap of hoping things will get better and they don’t or letting things go when the future later shows it would have gotten better.

3. How?_

So what do you do? How do you know the relationship is going to last? How do you know the job is going to turn around? How do you know you will do a good job being a parent? How do you know you will be there when that person needs you?

4. Time_

Time can be wasted. Yes, but if you don’t take that leap of faith you will never know. The constant speculations doesn’t help but if you know deep down that this is the right thing to do. If you believe there is something. Commit yourself. You may be blamed for even trying if things fall apart but you truly thought it would work out. Not everything works out and that’s okay, that’s just how life. Don’t look back with regret look back with pride that you took that opportunity to try.


“Cause I played it cool when I was scared of letting go.”

5. You Don’t Really Know_

I would have loved to grow up with both parents but the decision was clearly made. If he truly thought he could stay then he would have no excuses behind it. Now I look back and if he had stayed then that would have been a bad idea. If he was committed and made it work then I would have been happier. Let’s be honest there’s always something missing.

6. Think about it_

What is it worth?

7. Fight_

If you are willing to stay. If someone is willing to stay. Then it’s worth fighting for and if its easier than that then great! Don’t let go of something that can turn into something amazing. The end result may not be how you visioned it but if you’re still smiling like you was in that vision, I guess mission accomplished.

8. Say It_

Tell them you will try not to let go. Tell them you won’t let go.


“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

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– Say You Won’t Let Go –

Sam Smith

 

Scared

Scared

Showing that you’re scared is seen as a weakness, but we are all afraid of something. When you’re a child those fears are accepted. Once you’ve reached adulthood it’s as though you really have to hide them away. Where’s the humanity in that?


1. Nothing Different_

Women are seen to be more emotional than men. So it may not be a surprise that they may have the most fears. I do think that men are the same. I guess I shouldn’t say that, as their ‘role’ is to be the alpha male and not show it but it’s there. They just refuse to admit it and those that want to are afraid. They are afraid of what other people would say and how they would look at them after.

2. Actions_

If an intruder breaks into your home, the man of the house should check it out. I’m pretty sure the majority of their minds are thinking ‘Why don’t you check it out?’. No one is any weaker than anyone else. Fear is fear and we all have a weakness. So if someone confides in me about their fear I won’t burst out laughing. Even though it can be something silly, but so could mine.

3. The Hold_

Fear does take hold of you and when you’re faced with it. It’s just like those characters in the movies when you’re shouting at the screen telling them to run. You freeze. What do you do? How do you deal with it? What will happen?

4. The Force_

People can use your fears against you. It doesn’t mean I’m going to lock myself in a room for of spiders to prove others wrong or make myself immune from fear somehow. If you’re scared you’re scared. No need to prove anything to anyone and if you feel you must and you face it. You’ve taken that first step.


“Cause the fear in me just won’t go away.”

5. Facing It_

Once you have faced your fear that can be all you needed to overcome it. That’s the hard part. You’ve been trying to avoid it for so long and that may just have been what you need to get rid of it completely. You now know what to expect if it were to present itself again. To be honest, if I were locked in a room full of spiders, I still would never want to do that again!

6. The List_

We can also have positive looks on our fears. If it’s the fear of letting someone down and then you do, nobody’s perfect you’ve had a good track record so far. If it’s the fear of being left behind, someone will eventually push you forward. If it’s the fear of telling someone how you feel, at least you’ll finally know the real response, as opposed to playing different scenarios in your head driving yourself crazy. The list continues.

7. Losing Someone_

This is one of the biggest fears. It’s understandable. It’s hard. How do you continue? Will I forget? You want to freeze time or even go back. This is probably why many people may just want to get so close to anyone. It may hurt less… Don’t shut off because the truth is you may miss out on being with the most amazing people you would ever meet.

8. Choice_

I am scared of a few things. I’m sure I will continue to try and avoid them. I do however have a choice, I can go towards my fear or wait for the fear can come to me. This is fun..


“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

– Nelson Mandela

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– Scared –

Duffy

 

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Comeback Story

Comeback Story

These shoes that I now wear have been through quite a lot. Including all the others that I’ve grown out of or broke. 


1. The Shoes_

I mean I can honestly say I’ve been through the motions and I’m still walking but in different shoes now. They are more comfortable and look great. I am talking about my new Skechers but I’m also talking about me. We all have our stories and that began the moment we were born.

2. Our Movies_

We have experienced the action, drama, horror, adventure, comedy and even Sci-fi. I haven’t seen an alien yet unless it’s a Men In Black thing and they are around but look like everyone else or the Neuralyzer has been used on me so many times.

3. Questions_

I have questioned myself and wondered how I have overcome what I have, but I’m just glad I did. There are those that come into our lives that don’t take the chance to understand or really get to know you. The experiences we go through change us maybe there’s have changed them to a point they just don’t care anymore.

4. Take The Moment_

So why not take that moment, to walk in each other’s shoes. I mean they can have my old ones because my Skechers are on a new journey. We will both get to understand one another better, even those parts we lack in ourselves. You never know they may be the ones to help fill that area.


“I walk a mile in your shoes and now I’m a mile away… and I got your shoes.”

5. Make It Fit_

If the shoe doesn’t fit, make it! No matter how tight and uncomfortable because that’s what some people have had to face. Deplete how quick you may be to judge.

6. The Mission_

I make it my mission to try and walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. You can’t just look at a person and assume you know their story. Once I’m a mile away and have those shoes. I will give them back. It can be a complete stranger who is raging at me, I’ll sprint in their shoes for a moment. There’s a reason for why they are angry and that could be me or something unresolved. It’s just a waste of energy to fight back especially when the Hulk is involved. Unless we’re both angry then it’s Clash of the Titans. You never know that one calm or even funny response may have been all they needed to just chill out a bit.

7. The Story_

This could turn out to be a good story you tell. When you actually allow yourself to open up and really see others. It changes your perspective. Understand the choices and reasons as to why they are the way they are.

8. Spree_

So whether it’s a friend, family member or a stranger I will walk, glide, jog and even run in their shoes. It’s like going on a shopping spree some may look good or look really bad. Either way, there are shoes out there for everyone.


“Shoes define how you walk in the world and how you stand: like, what is your posture in life?” – Kerry Washington

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– Comeback Story –

Kings Of Leon

 

Nobody’s Perfect

Nobody’s Perfect

It’s true what they say, that nobody’s perfect. I guess we were at one point and that’s the moment we took our first breath on this earth. Who knew that later in life we would make so many mistakes. I say so many which include the small and big mistakes we have made.


1. Who?_

I mean who would you be if you were perfect anyway? How would you learn from your mistakes? You can easily say I just wouldn’t do what others do, but my question still remains. How would you learn from YOUR mistakes? It’s that feeling of regret, panic, and despair.

2. That Step_

I know that those are not good feelings to have, but after processing it you are prepared for the next step. That step is growth, you now know what to avoid so you don’t end up trapped in those feelings again. They can consume you and sometimes leave you stuck.

3. Take It For Granted_

There are those that do take it for granted, especially those who have been forgiven more than once. I mean there is a limit, right? It’s quite clear that if those same mistakes occur more than once it’s not a mistake anymore. It’s a choice. If you choose to continue, I can choose to let you go.

4. Challenge_

Majority of the time when it is someone close to you it can be hard. That is the challenge we face, but I’m sure having them feel the consequence is stronger than them being forgiven again. You let them off the hook, then how are we going to catch any fish??


“Cause nobody’s perfect, No, no, no, no, no, no, no, nobody’s perfect.”

5. Better or Worse_

There are worse mistakes that can be made. Those are the hardest ones to come back from. Those are the kind we definitely try to avoid.

6. Don’t Hide_

Nobody is perfect so don’t try to hide your mistakes. Get those jazz hands out and be honest. If you wait the reaction can be much worse. I say that but there are those that really punish people to the extreme when it’s unnecessary.

7. Let Down_

We all have someone that we really don’t want to let down. For some that can be everybody. If things fall apart, put it back together. Don’t feel that you failed. As long as you’re trying it makes a difference.

8. Continue_

I will continue with my days, I won’t prepare myself for the next thing I do wrong. As that is just setting doubt on myself. I’ll just stay focused on the next good thing that will happen.


“Nobody’s perfect, and to try to pretend you’re perfect is an exhausting fool’s errand.”           – Rosemary Mahoney

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– Nobody’s Perfect –

Jessie J

 

Unsteady

Unsteady

We are not always going to be 100%. There is always going to be something or someone that will tear us down. Disrupt our flow. Make us fall apart. Make us lose ourselves.


1. Fool Ourselves_

We may try and lie to others with a fake smile and say we are okay. I believe we do that to try and fool ourselves too. It doesn’t work because when the moment comes when we’re alone with nothing or no one to distract us, that feeling chases right up to us.

2. Feel_

We like to seem fine because we don’t to be seen as weak or a so-called ‘baby’ but we’re not. We feel and there’s nothing wrong with that no matter how old or who we are.

3. Be There_

It seems shocking when the person you thought had it all together suddenly breaks down. What do you do? I already know I feel nervous when someone is crying but I know I’m going to stay there. Everyone needs a shoulder. Everyone needs someone. We don’t need to be the best of friends but if your hurting there’s no need to be alone.

4. You Don’t Know_

We don’t know what happens behind closed doors and sometimes we want particular people to be there for us when we need them. Unfortunately, the person we want may not be there. They may have sadly passed away. They may still be around but we’ve gone our separate ways.


 “Hold, Hold on, Hold on to me, ‘Cause I’m a little unsteady, A little unsteady.”

5. The Push_

You may be pushed away or have someone disappear. You could be that person. It’s mainly because you feel embarrassed or don’t want to seem like a burden. As much as you know they’re not, you’re not either. Saying you need help a step forward.

6. Disrupt_

When we’re unsteady it can cause a disruption in our lives. It may seem like everything you come across beings to become as unsteady as you are. You can’t do this. You can’t do that. All the negativity takes its toll. This is just another hurdle you ARE going to jump over.

7. Home_

When you’re home everything feels right. Everything feels how it should. What if you’re unsteady at home? Ever heard of the saying ‘Home is where the heart is.’ We all see and feel home in different places. Go there. Be there. Take that time.
 

8. Hold On_

When I can’t hold myself up will you be there? If you can’t hold yourself up will I be there? You best believe it! If me holding you up from afar is enough then know it’s being done because we all need someone too. I’ll hold on as long as you need me to.


“One feels that the past stays the way you left it, whereas the present is in constant movement; it’s unstable all around you.”

– Tom Stoppard

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